Hi everyone, sorry for being out of blogosphere for a while. I was so busy on so many things – I mean my mind. Would you imagine that it’s almost half of the month? And half of the year? Oh dear! Ang bilis ng panahon! I didn’t even notice it because of what I am going through.
I wanted to be honest with you by telling you every bits of the story but I don’t want to hurt those people whose making me feel hurt. I think it isn’t right diba? If they make you worst, kiber mo sa kanila. It wouldn’t make everything ok kung papatulan mo lang sila diba? Speaking of it, as of this moment that I am typing, this isn’t what I felt awhile ago talaga. This is what I like about blogging kasi it makes my mind think of a better way on how I would respond on things. Ang chaka naman kasi diba if negativity ang ma acquire ng readers ko ( kung may readers nga talaga ako). Oh well I think there were. Hehe, like Mommy Joy of Happiness of Joy, Edelweiza of Life in Manila, Gladysof Pinay Mom. They are those who constantly drop by a comment or two to give encouraging words on everything I write in here which makes me want to write more. I am learning from them too so I hope you can check their blogs too because I am sure you will pick a moral lesson on stories they share. At least from these blogs, its real life stories you read and not fictional. =)
Teka, mejo na carried away na ako at nalayo sa topic ng slight. Hehe.
Going back, I was not feeling well this weekend. Not literally sick but my mind is preoccupied with so many things. With that, I am not able to think and feel straight. I get affected with words and things that those people around me do quite habitally and it makes me feel uneasy. Although I am thankful that everyday, I get to see James smiling and playing and that makes me feel right.
I came in the office late today because of me playing emo. Hehe. I decided to go to work so I can express this better here in my blog. Yes, I go to work to earn money and to blog. I am not a good writer. I don’t know how will I explain things, I have a very unorganized mind like my closet and I hate talking about how I feel because it will make me weep, and weep and weep.. weep.. weep.. Wait, I found it funny but really, I hate speaking about my feelings specially if that’s what I felt right then and there. Most of the time, I reflect and find some revengeous act, (if there’s such word) like most of us do but this blog makes me feel positive. I am hating negativity if I am writing about things I want to share here because I want you to not to feel what I am going through. It’s really hard to “reyna ng emotera” to be on this kind of situation.
Anyhoo, instead on elaborating on the negative eklaver that’s going on with me, I read this article at www.marcangel.com which I would like to share to you instead. I was introduced on their website when I read Ms. Jenni Epperson’s post about “30 Things to start doing for yourself”.
It’s really a timing that I read this post with what I am in as of the moment. I would put in the things they wrote and would pick a line each on how they describe it in their blog which I liked the most then if I may, I will share my insights and maybe with that, you can have a glimpse of what I am up to.
20 Habbits Happy People Have ( But never talked about)
“happy people are often thankful for all the rude, obnoxious, and difficult people they meet in life, because these people serve as important reminders of how NOT to be.”
They give to others whenever they are able.
“providing social support is actually more beneficial to our happiness than receiving it.’
They nurture their important relationships.
“The number of friends isn’t the important aspect here; it’s the effort you put into your relationships that matters. “
I am really not Ms. Congeniality at all. I only mingle on those people who I think are worth my time and trust. I have received a comment here at work that I don’t often get along with other people. It’s not that I am anti-social really, I just don’t feel like making friends with everybody. Talking to them is enough because I am sure that those 1-3 friends that I picked have been so much enough to keep me sane.
4. They leave space to love themselves too.
“Happy people know self-love isn’t selfish.”
They focus on effectiveness over popularity.
“It’s this feeling of knowing you made a difference that matters in the end.”
They say “no” when they need to
“Sometimes you have to set clear boundaries.”
They sincerely practice gratitude.
“The more you count your blessings, the more blessings there will be to count, and the happier you will be.”
They cultivate optimism.
“People who think optimistically see the world as a place packed with endless opportunities, especially in trying times.”
They don’t attach themselves to every success and failure.
“Never let success get to your head and never let failure get to your heart.”
They develop strategies for coping in hard times.
“How you respond to the hard times is what shapes your character. “
They see rejection as protection from what’s not meant to be.
Rejection doesn’t mean you aren’t good enough; it means the other person failed to notice what you have to offer.”
They are focused on the present.
“We have no way of knowing what lies ahead, but that’s what makes the journey even more exciting – that’s what makes life worth living today.”
They dedicate time to meaningful pursuits.
“There are seven days in the week, and “someday” isn’t one of them."
They are fully committed to their top priorities.
“It’s commitment that creates outcomes worth smiling about."
Originally, we have to identify our priorities in life. My top most list is James. I am always committed with everything that relates to him. I can’t imagine a day without him and that what makes me become a WM. I wanted to provide him those wonderful things that life has to offer. I may not have all the money in the world, I will be giving him those things that can’t be bought with million dollar penny. Thinking about those wonderful memories that I am planning that we do together really makes me happy. =)
15. They embrace discomfort for mastery of a desired skill.
“ The rewards of becoming great at something in the long run far outweigh the short-term stress of mastery.”
They take care of their physical health.
“If you don’t have your physical energy in good shape, then your mental energy (your focus), your emotional energy (your feelings), and your spiritual energy (your purpose) will all be negatively affected. ”
I am not sure if I am physically fit though I seldom get sick – as in seldom. As soon as I get my HMO, probably next month, I’ll have myself checked every month to become physicaly fit. I am also planning in joining in Fun Runs to because I’ll have a buddy na!! Yehey!! I’ll just have to wait for a couple of months kasi they said I should wait for a year daw pero babatukan na ako ng friend kong Nurse kasi I can do normal things na daw except lifting heavy things. Anyhoo, I have plan things ahead of time, it’s just a matter of executing the plan.
17. They spend money on experiences, rather then needless stuff.
““Experiential purchases” tend to make us happier for two key reasons: 1. Great experiences improve over time when we reminisce about them. 2. Experiences are often social events that get us out of our house and interacting with people we care about.”
This I would say I achieved before I had James. As I shared to you before, I have travelled different places although it’s not out of the country. Remember, I have applied passport January 2013 then March of the same year, I found out I was pregnant with James. Maybe because he wants to join me on my first every out of the country tour ano? Hehe. Anyway, I would like to spend still one “Experiential purchases” like travelling, new skills learned and some events that would make me remember until my gray hair days. I advised you to go places because it is a long lasting memory than of those clothes, shoes and needless stuff.
18. They savor life’s little joys.
“Happiness is a how, not a what – a mindset, not a destination.”
I always, always forgot to be joyful in little things that comes my life. I guess most of us does because for me, I always look on the bigger ones that are life changing before being so happy about it. Maybe, I have to learn the concept of contentment first so that I can be happy with the smallest things. They said to always live below your means and appreciate things more often. Its not bad to reach for the top, but always be grateful of those smallest things along the way. I have to work on this one as well.
19. They embrace the impermanence of life.
“Sometimes walking away is a step forward.”
They said that the only constant thing in this world is change. People and things come and go – some are never ment to stay and some are here for good. Whatever it takes, we should be ready on the changes and still willing to go on with our life regardless of what is coming along our way. It may be hard but this will be one happy step moving forward. This I have to focus on too.
They live a life they actually want to live.
“Surround yourself with people who support and care not for the “you” they want you to be, but for the real you.”
This is the sum up of those listed above. Living the life you want to be and not everyone wants you to become. In the past year of my life, a lot of changes came and sometimes I don’t feel like being able to attend to every single one of it. I grew up in a way where I have been given a freedom to choose what I really want in life. I am lucky not be be asked on how to live my own life so I guess I have to think not once, twice but ten times until I’ll realize what’s the best for me and my son moving forward. I am not born to please everyone but to live my life the fullest.
Today, I chose the path of the Happy people and decided to share them to you. It might be just the word of encouragement for you to go on with your life but the tarpaulin in Gil Puyat says ; “Somewhere out there, Someone is facing a harder battle than you are..” so I have to being grateful in things coming your way and working on each of those opportunities that drags you down will send you to happy place where happy people are living at.
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Choose to be happy today, and everyday. =)